The last couple of years have been a great exercise in personal growth for me. I have been able to handle situations with calmness and objectivity, I have been able to separate emotion from facts, I have been able to conduct myself pleasantly for my daughter and my family even if some other aspect of my life is under duress
I pride myself on how I got rid of the regular emotional spirals I used to go through. The change was sustainable, the change was in me. I had created a shift in my identity for the better.
But maybe just to remind me that growth in not a destination….it is a journey, what I am running away from – comes right around in my face. On some days, the drama, the pile up of work, the deadlines just come tumbling down on you. I admit it, some days are just hard.
So What do you do when a day is particularly hard.
STOP
Stop reacting, stop listening, stop processing and get away from the madness.
In my case my study is a quiet corner. I have created an aura of “I can’t afford distractions when I am at work” sort of aura. For some, the respite might be their room, a coffee shop, some chores, even the bathroom!
Just removing yourself from the situation for a while helps.
BREATHE
I swear, this is the simplest thing and one of the most powerful things you can do. Just breathe. Close your eyes if possible, zone out everything else, take nice long deep breath through your nose and slowly feel your lungs fill in. Then slowly exhale. Repeat. Slow down.
BREATHE….
STOP FIGHTING IT
Happiness, is not a destination – there isn’t one day from whereon everything will always be good and perfect. There will always be ups and downs and ups and downs.
Life is the good, the bad, the ugly – all of it. Life is happening now, its today…it is the journey you are on..don’t miss a moment. Don’t let anyone make you miss a single moment of this beautiful journey.
Challenges help you grow. Challenges are what make you stronger than before – they are your friends.
The day you stop fighting and accept this truth, you will be liberated
DO NOT JUDGE YOURSELF
Judging yourself negatively is one of the worst things you can do to yourself. There is no right or wrong. There is no perfection. You do what you can and do it to the best of your abilities. Don’t worry about the consequences if your actions have been right.
Don’t judge yourself for having had a bad moment or a bad day.
REACH OUT FOR HELP
Help could come in different forms
In my case, I have a few go-to tricks that help me out:
- What would they do
I think of my people who are handling much more than I do, but have the ability to take life easy. I think to myself “what would they do in this situation”. More often than not, the response would be to laugh and tell me I am taking things too seriously; and that would be true!
- My book of inspiration
I keep a book of notes & inspirational quotes. These are quotes and lines from books I have read that made a lot of sense. In times of stress, these words of wisdom remind me my true north – the path I am on. I instantly feel better and I am back on track
- I change things around me
I turn on a happy lamp, turn on some good music, open up all the windows and doors to let in some sun, play with our dogs and bring on the happy!
DON’T GIVE UP
It’s not easy to understand our place in the world and figure everything out. Life isn’t easy. It is beautiful though.
Don’t give up.
Take care you all!
Reach out to me!
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